Showing posts with label cope. Show all posts
Showing posts with label cope. Show all posts

Friday, October 18, 2013

Gaining Perspective

 How many times have you set out a big goal financially, but then failed to complete it? Most of us have done this many times because the goal is to big or there are to many different competing goals and so we get totally overwhelmed and quit. Maybe your goal has sounded something like I will get on a budget, start saving for retirement, pay down some debt, go on a vacation, pay off a car loan, and save some money for my kids college this year. In reality that is to much to get done in a year, unless you have super human powers. However in five years you could be very well on your way to accomplishing many of those goals.


 During a recent sermon series at my church called Margin, which addressed creating space in our financial life, my pastor shared this. "We often overestimate what we can get done in a year, and underestimate what we can get done in five years". - Chris PayneNew Charlotte Church.


In light of this simple truth, here is one exercise for gaining perspective on where you can be in five years.

Step 1: Figure out what your one year household income is.
Step 2: Multiple that number by 5.
Step 3: Write that number down.
Step 4: Figure out how much money you need to accomplish your MOST IMPORTANT goal.
Step 5: Now think about how you can use that pot of money to accomplish your most important goal.
Step 6: Take specific and intentional action towards that goal.

If you start now and become intentional about where you want to be in five years, you will soon start to realize that you are making progress towards your goal.

Example Family
Step 1: Household income $50,000
Step 2: Five years of income $250,000
Step 3: $250,000
Step 4: Pay off the car loan of $15,000.
Step 5: Wow, $250,000 is a lot of money, maybe you can figure out a way to pay off the car, and then start saving for the future.
Step 6: Paying off $15,000 is not likely to happen in a year, but could you do it in two years, at $7,500 a year or $625 a month? In all likelihood you are probably already making a car payment of something like $300 a month towards the loan, so you would only need to find another $325 a month. Where to find an extra $325 a month becomes the question to ask your self. 


Here is a sample of how to find an extra $325 a month. Decrease your groceries by $100, your clothing by $100, your family entertainment by a $50, and your eating out by $75? The important thing is that you take the time to figure out where you will spend less money to accomplish your goal.

What goal are you currently working on? Please leave a comment.




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Tuesday, October 15, 2013

Moving Towards Hope

"You don't need coping skills, you need hoping skills, impossible is nothing for God"

This is a quote I heard from Dr. Margaret Nagib who led a workshop during the 2013 American Association of Christian Counselors conference. This was one of those paradigm (belief) changing workshops. How often have we all been caught just trying to find ways to get by, and not looking for ways to thrive?

So what is hope? It is the overall perception that a goal can be meet. There are two primary components of hope.  The first is agency thoughts, which represents the drive to get something done. The second is pathways to achievement, seeing that there are multiple ways to get something done. The people that get the most accomplished and fulfilled out of life are not the most intelligent, but rather the ones that know that they can get it done. In other words they remain hopeful.

Why pursue hope? It can lead to; physical, mental and emotional health, a meaningful life, academic success, improved athletic performance, patience, and gratitude to name a few.

Dr. Nagib also introduced a simple formula for pursuing big dreams.

Hoping = Big Dreams  and Coping = Little Dreams

If you are ready to start developing hope consider a dream journal. Write out a 100 dreams. To help you get started think about; travel, financial, education, hobbies, kids, family, legacy, and professional dreams.

As Christians we know that our ultimate hope is in the Lord, but that does not mean we can not have additional hopes and dreams.

Hoping Means
Trusting Him with everything you got
Choosing His peace when things don't make sense Phil. 4:7
Breaking off the lies and bad partnerships
Hope does not disappoint us Rom. 5:5

Thank you Dr. Nagib for your wonderful presentation.

What are you hopeful about? Please leave a comment.



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